How often do you wake up in the morning and go straight for your phone? You immediately head to your favorite social media site and begin scrolling the minutes away through the endless feed. We see people who (most of the time) are fabricating stories about how incredible their lives are. We’re so obsessed with what we see on that tiny screen that we forget we have our own lives to go out and experience.
Self-awareness is all about knowing who we are and having a clear viewpoint of our own personalities, that includes our strengths and weaknesses. It is essential in personal, and business relationships.
Start Putting Your Nose Into Books
For me, the journey of self-awareness began at a low point. Throughout several years of unrelenting depression, I still tried to find ways to reach out to others for support. I hardly received the shoulder I needed and was often met with those who were more concerned about their personal situation. Eventually, I stopped asking people for advice and started turning to books.
We’re used to seeking out guidance from other people or asking how they’d handle a certain situation when we should be picking up a book and finding effective ways to deal with it ourselves. Where your peers can only offer hypothetical scenarios, self-help books can give you clear steps that can be successfully applied to your life. Look for titles that emphasize the importance of financial growth and emotional intelligence, as the two go hand in hand, believe it or not.
Focus On Your Strengths to Increase Self-Confidence
One day, I opened up an email titled Self Awareness: Know Yourself, from a serial entrepreneur named Gary Vaynerchuk. In a nutshell, the email said that when we learn what it is that we excel at, and put our efforts into those things, we can accept our weaknesses. https://www.garyvaynerchuk.com/we-need-to-talk-about-the-importance-of-self-awareness/
Understanding your strengths and weaknesses allows you more self-confidence. As you continue your reading, you’ll begin to recognize that you too have skills, ideas, and a level of creativity that no one else has. You’ll value yourself more, and stop spending all your time on Instagram trying to figure out what it is that you’re doing wrong and others are doing right.
Although I’d already created a blog, I felt like I was capable of more. I took the traumatic events from my past, the ones that no one else would take the time to listen to, and discovered that I could work through my raw grief in a way that was productive. My emotional awareness was almost instantly heightened.
Find Healing in Personal Journaling
We should all be making time for personal journaling. I know, it feels like I’m telling you to keep a diary, and that is essentially what we’re doing here. You can free-write if you choose, but I’d like you to try and focus on specific events throughout the day. Did you feel moments of extreme sadness? Elation? Jealousy? Where did these emotions come from? Are there situations in which you could have handled it a little differently? How long has it been since you last touched that project you wanted to finish by the end of the year?
If you want to improve your sense of self-awareness, you should be journaling every single day!
Don’t Be Afraid to Spend a Little Time on Your Own
There was a lot of baggage behind my depression, I’d suffered the loss of family and I’ve always had a bad case of social anxiety. Isolation is often frowned upon in our society, but it can give you a serious reality check when you’re trying to figure out who and where you want to be in life. I was suddenly able to identify my feelings better, where they came from, and how they impacted my thoughts and actions.
Spending time alone gave me an opportunity to get to the core of my emotions, I realized that many people, not just myself, struggle with their own sense of achievement. I was finally able to start using social media as a way to build myself up and promote my brand. Solitude also means you’ve got more time to reflect on what’s important to you, so be sure to take a few days to yourself when your mind is clouded or overwhelmed.
Respect Yourself, Stop Comparing Lives
If you have to cut yourself off from social media for awhile in order to do this, start deleting those apps right now. Unless you’re using them to promote your brand, you’re likely just wasting a lot of time wishing you had a life full of designer clothes, exotic cars, and private planes.
Aside from the painfully obvious signs that most of it isn’t even reality, comparing yourself to others completely contradicts self-awareness. You’ve got to realize that someone else’s circumstances may look incredible from a distance, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling with something behind closed doors. I won’t sit here and give you the generic “you are where you’re supposed to be in this moment” pep talk.
If we’re being honest with ourselves, there are probably a few areas in life that could use a little more effort. However, you need to start giving yourself some credit! It’s pretty rare that you see the results of hard work instantly, but that doesn’t mean you’re failing. Karen may claim she cashed out on a brand new car on Instagram, it’s far more likely that it was rented for the photoshoot though.
Self-awareness also means respecting yourself and the work you’ve put in to get where you are. Focus on how far you’ve come, and you’ll see that you are making progress. The results will be real because you understood your worth and put in the effort.