What is fear? Fear is defined as a feeling of anxiety concerning the outcome of something or the safety and well-being of someone.
What are you most fearful about? My biggest fear was of being alone, but not the alone time one spends with oneself, but of truly being ALONE in the World.
After losing my immediate family members in such a short amount of time, the impact of being truly alone hit me hard and I didn’t know who or where to turn to for help.
Many of my friends deserted me in my time of need, good friends, old friends. I was stunned and in shock to say the least. I couldn’t understand what was happening in my life anymore. How was I going to overcome this fear I had of being alone? Who would help me?
For months after my dad’s death, I began to hang out with people that I neither liked nor were good for me. In fact, they hurt me. So why did I stick around? I guess because I didn’t feel so alone when I was with them. However, that didn’t work out to well and after an incident occurred that left me questioning what I was doing, I decided that my behavior was detrimental to my well being. It was in this moment of clarity, I decided that I would be better off alone and it was then I knew that I had to face my challenges and figure out what I was going to do next.
I decided to seek out professional help and was advised to take charge of my own feelings, and learn to cope with my loneliness. What I needed was an anchor, something to ground me, like the love, intelligence and well-being of a spiritual foundation of guidance.
I learned that it wasn’t good for my recovery to hold my fears within and dwell on them alone, so I committed to receiving professional help on a regular basis until I could face my fears head on, instead of hide from them.
The path to facing my fears and finding my own happiness was the greatest gift and life lesson I could give to myself. Once I began to learn more self-awareness, I was better able to know my true value. I began to take on challenging tasks that I never thought I could accomplish. Once I was present, (in the moment) I was able to give myself more self-love, and the same will be true for you.
Remember, we are never truly alone, and when we learn to connect deeply with our own true self and listen to the guidance and wisdom of our higher self, it is within this deep inner connection we find that there is no longer anything to fear, even being alone.
